Memory...

And so she left, leaving a memory.
There was a time when she completed me, there was a time when time dint pass without her presence, there was a time when I hardly realized it was 6 AM and I was yet on the phone, there was a time when I stopped the world for her, there was a time when I cried my eyes out to her, there WAS a time.
How many of us have someone like this? Or may I call it ‘best friend’. Who stays with you forever and ever? How much can you expect from someone? How much can someone live it up to you? Can you be there without wanting them to be there for you in return? Can you not feel ashamed of being a burden on someone? Can someone make you feel like you aren’t a burden on them? Can you always be the one to give and not want? Do you think best friends really do exist? How much can you trust someone with your life? Can you be completely honest with anyone?
If the answer to the last question is ‘yes’ then you deserve a clap! If the answer to the first question is ‘yes’ then you’ve been blessed! If the answer to the first question is ‘yes’, and to the last one is ‘no’ then you are wasting that relationship!
It is so human of me to ask so many questions. But I’m not asking you, I’m asking myself and I’m telling you to ask yourself! Are we true to ourselves when we say I can say anything and everything to ‘xyz’ person? Can we stop deceiving ourselves for once? Cause it really doesn’t help!

She came in my life to ‘be’… She came to be my guardian angel… She came when I really needed someone! Is that why she is so important to me? Is it just that much? Am I THIS close to her because of the downs in my life? Would it be someone else if it wasn’t for her? How can I think like this about her… No No, I can’t! She’s been there when I had to cry, she’s been there when my hopes had given up on me… when I dint see another way out except for death! What she left behind was an obligation. Well I know it isn’t appropriate to say she’s obliged me but that’s what it feels like now, with all the distance growing… I hate being away! I hate her leaving! Why does she have to go? Doesn’t she give me that importance? Don’t I come first for her like the way she does? Oh my god, I’m EXPECTING things from her! That’s wrong!
Expecting anything from her spoilt my relationship with her. I raped it! I blame myself! I am responsible!
She left because of me, leaving a memory!

My Mother...

This is for my mother, who made me.

Not all of us know how much it takes out of a woman to give birth to a child. In fact, we cant even think of what she goes through unless we do it ourselves! Can we really thank them enough? No. Nothing fills in for that. Nothing compensates. And most of all, she wouldn't want us to repay her. I read this somewhere at a random place, 'A child gives birth to a mother.' It stayed with me for long. I couldn't stop thinking about it. Isn't it true? If there wasn't a child to be born, a mother wouldn't exist either!

How many times does one tell their mother how much she is loved? I dint as often as one should have. And its the biggest mistake in my life. Say it out loud, she's here. You cant do any better than telling her you love her. She's going to feel content. If you don't, the day you'll lose her will be the day you'll be saying it louder than you cried when you were a child. Trust me! You'll regret it all your life. Being a mother is not just another responsibility. One cant even imagine how far a mother may go for her child. And its not an obligation. A father may support the child and all what he is 'suppose to do' as a father which is commendable too. But a mother is not 'suppose to do' anything. She just does it, without question or answer, without reason or justification. She's just there behind you when you fall turning back and she keeps a hand on your shoulder and says, "Its alright!"

My mother is no more with me today in this world but I know she 'IS'. And I know some people may call this deception or rather may say, I'm trying to comfort myself but it doesn't matter. Because I know deep down, she is there, still there! I can and I do talk to her. Its nothing magical. Its because she's 'My Mother'. :) And no one in this world would hate themselves more when they realize they lost their chance to tell their moms, 'I love you ma'. Its not so hard, if you think it is then its going to be harder to forgive yourself in later life.

I would hate to write, 'Please realize the importance of a mother'. But do realize that saying, 'Mom, you are important to me' may help. If after reading this, you did feel even for a moment that what I am trying to say is right, please go and give your mother a tight hug and tell her how lucky you are to have her around and that nobody in this world loves her more than you do! :)

And like always, Love doing it!

-Kanchan :)

(P.S:- If anyone at all is offended, I Apologize. Through this article, I'm not trying to tell you my plight, but just trying to tell everyone, You don't get another chance.)

CO-INCIDENCES.. Is it so???

We say everything happens for a reason.. And that no event or activity takes place without a justification.. And that even the existence of an atom is due to a reason.. So what is this reason??
Why are we born in a particular home? Why do we have particular parents? Why cant we choose things on our will? Why do we get along with a few and not all? Is it all planned? Is this what we call "destiny"?? Don't we have any control over our lives? Can't we decide what OUR future should be?

The answer to all these questions are UNKNOWN! Therefore, to make ourselves feel intelligent and not feel embarrassed about not knowing the answers, we ( as always) take the easy way out by giving it a very convincing name... CO-INCIDENCE! But is it so?? Are we sure that anything we don't have an explanation for is sheer co-incidence? NO! Things that happen with and around us are not just a co-incidence. They have a motive.. Life gives us many signals. It implicitly offers.. It is us who have to understand those signals.. We have to realize that everything that happens has to happen and is "meant to" happen!

OK.. Let me start with this..

# Story No. 1 - This happened on the 21st of January 2009. I was returning from a friends place at night at around 10 and got down at the station. There weren't many rickshaws there. I tried catching one but none agreed. There was this guy standing who wanted to go to some place close to my house and apparently was on my way. When i finally found a rickshaw I offered to drop him. He agreed and sat in. We chatted a little and realized we've seen each other a couple of times before and even knew where the other lived. We became friends.

# Story No. 2 - When i was in the 9th grade.. i had participated in my annual day.. And there was a choreographer who we hardly interacted with.. We never exchanged numbers or spoke.. After the annual day we never met.. I then passed my school years and entered college.. Made friends.. And one of them got along really well with me.. Her birthday arrived and guess who i see there... My choreographer.. He turned out to be her brother.. We spoke like we knew each other since ages.. We met after that and chatted for 7 hours at a stretch and we're still very good friends.. BEAT THAT!

# Story No. 3 - I live in andheri and go to a college which is located in churchgate. Being in the 12th grade. I needed to join classes for my studies. It so happened that i had a friend who lived in kandivali and she told me about these tutors in borivali. I was kind of hesitant about the travel.. But eventually agreed to go see the teacher there. I loved the environment and without a second thought I agreed! I got along with my professors so well and bonded with them so strongly that when i wouldn't have class I would be eager to meet them. We're like a family today.

# Story No. 4 - The classes I just spoke about in the previous episode had arranged a trip for us to Goa. Even ex-students were welcome to the trip. There was this girl named Vidhi who accompanied us on the trip. Every little thing that had happened in her life had happened with me too. We shared the most amazing rapport on the trip. After the trip i also asked her to participate with me in a show. She used to come to classes often but we never bothered to know each other. It was like "things happen when they are meant to happen!" She knows my life history. We have the same choices, same preferences, similar priorities in life, same thinking, etc. etc. And I can go on! Today she is one of the closest friends i have and i don't consider this a co-incident because it feels so "meant to be!"

I could go on with my stories! I believe that nothing is unplanned. There is a reason why we meet someone, why we get along with some, why we feel comfortable with only a few, why we take certain decisions and why such uncertain things happen to us! If life was certain there wouldn't be any life in the certainties! We would know our future and react accordingly. We wouldn't grow and come across any new experiences. So the next time you say, "What A Co-incidence?" Think TWICE!! It may not be one. It could just be a signal of an unexpected surprise! Be unknown! Be prepared! Because you never know what you call a mere co-incidence could be the biggest turn in your life!

With Love,
Kanchan

(P.S.- All the stories are true!)

Success!

Some thing that everyone is looking for.. Something that even a man living on the streets and a millionaire has wished for in life..What is it? Success? What is success?

Is it an achievement.. Is it financial security? Is it leading a happy married life? Or is it giving birth to children and giving them a comfortable life? Well.. according to me.. it is the feeling of accomplishment of the goal of our life.. different for different people.. like it is the result of the deeds, hard work, dedication, prayers, etc.

But what is our goal of life... All of the things I mentioned above... security, comfort, luxury, money, happiness, etc. No. It is the difference you make in other people's life.. It is the mark you embark which shall be eternal.. It is something done without the want of anything in return.. It is the love you spread to make someone's day(not only to your spouse), It is indeed the smile you gave to a beggar on the street.. Two sweet words you said to the waiter who served you.. A Little thank you to the man who dropped you to the destination.. THATS ALL it takes to make someone's day.. Thats all it takes to add a deed in your life.. This is the real goal of our life..
We all want to be happy, rich, famous. But no one is going to take that richness, the fame or the happiness up with them.. because these aren't eternal.. LOVE IS! And if you can love.. Your a successful human.. If you can be loved by others then your a highly successful human being..

This is success.. Fulfillment of desires in one lifetime.. Having no more urges.. Is success! Loving everyone around you unconditionally is success! So whoever wants to be successful in life.. Your stepping stone to success would be "LOVING"

Death.. Is Beautiful..

Like every story starts...

Once upon a time there used to be this young man, named Rohan, 23 years old... He lived a comfortable life.. Worked at a well paying firm.. He had depressing friends.. He had seen his friends loose their parents, siblings, etc. He worked day and night to make his family happy.. he helped the poor and had a soft corner for those in need.. And so.. The supreme power came down and granted him one wish.. He said, "Make my family immortal!" The supreme power warned him but he didn't budge.. The wish was granted.

He grew older with time and did his family.. When it was time for someone to die.. The supreme power would lock them up in a room to survive.. One by One all the family members were locked inside and when it was rohan's turn.. He was asked to visit the room before he dies.. He went in and found out that he had trapped them... He saw his parents in the worst states.. Some had lost their eyesight, or the hearing sense.. Some had gone numb, Some mute.. Some had a broken organ.. Seeing such pain and disaster.. He pleaded to let them go!.. He saw the want to die in everyone's eyes.. He felt sorry for being so selfish.. for wanting them to live a life they dint want to live.. He pleaded and begged to the supreme power to let them go.. Everyone in the room prayed for DEATH!.. Have you ever heard of that? People praying for death..

Everyone has a limit.. Everyone is going to get over one or the other day.. Even we are.. Don't be scared of death.. Embrace it willingly..




And to people who are going to lose their near and dear ones.. Face it! Thats the only solution.. You cannot sit and cry all your life about your loss.. Get up and move on.. I aint saying that you should forget things.. But don't get stuck! Its easy to say.. But hard to put it in practice.. I know.. But do you see another way out? People who have gone have gone for the best.. And they have lived life as much as they wanted to.. So you don't need to feel so horrible about it.. Cause Nothing has happened to you.. your just crying and Feeling miserable cause your wanting that person.. You are being SO selfish.. You are crying because YOU need that person.. Grow out of this.. And soon you'll realize that death isn't that bad.. In fact, I'd say its not bad at all.. For people who don't respect the worth of their life and don't live it well.. Its a lesson and for people who live their life well and enjoy life completely.. They've had their share of enjoyment and now its the turn of death.. Life and death are two sides of the same coin.. You have to live with the fact in your life that this may end anytime.. So people, please enjoy your life and death too.. Give death a smiling face.. Because living in this cruel world forever isn't a job for mortals!




Grow up, Move on, Enjoy, Help.. Thats what we're here for... Thats what life is all about.. Love your Life Because Love is Life!

With Love - Kanchan

Rain.. Its AWESOME!!

It was raining today, and without a second thought.. I ran to my bedroom, switched my clothes and hurried downstairs.. It was so beautiful.. Trust me it feels great to be alive and seeing the nature around you.. i walked further to a place without trees so i could get wet!




The water so pure seemed to enjoy itself wetting me... I saw absolutely no one in my colony and felt better to have all the rain to myself.. I wouldn't stop smiling.. People stared at me weirdly.. But you know i cared a DAMN!! I mean i was enjoying myself thoroughly.. Drenched, i sat on a seat close by and stared into space wishing that time would stop here.. Seeing the drops falling in the water that had accumulated in a corner.. I wanted to click it.. and save these moments.. To see water run through my hands.. Wet my hair and go tickling down my back.. My skin felt like it was breathing.. I felt like this is what life is worth living for.. THE BEAUTY OF NATURE'S EXISTENCE.. Water everywhere.. I actually noticed people running away to find some shade to stand under... This time i stared at them and laughed.. They were running away from life.. Then finally i came across these two kids who love the rain(like me), they stood together in my colony's ground and smiled at each other.. They noticed me coming.. I smiled at them too.. And asked them if they like the rain.. They just said, "we love it".. "and you?".. I replied saying, "ME TOO".. We stood quite! They went away and i stood there all alone.. My silence spoke to the noise of the rain.. It felt like i was conversing with someone high up there who has created this rain.. To come down to quench the thirst of the earth! I said, "Thank you".. and heard the clouds making a loud noise as if they heard me! I felt so pampered in the arms of the rain.. but still so free.. I wanted to dance.. Sing in joy.. But dint do it out of some shyness.. or Embarrassment.. after all.. I'm yet Human and do care about what the world thinks of me!




I then walked ahead to come back home.. I reached home and threw my chappals outside my house and ran to my bedroom to fetch some dry clothes and went to take a wash.. I must have never FELT as beautiful as this ever! I hope everyone who reads this post loves the rain or they'll hate me!!.. :)

(P.S:- By saying someone high up there.. I dint mean GOD... i meant a supreme power.. who has created the nature.. God is in the perception.. I perceive god in those people who have passed away.. and are probably loving their life up there now:).. No offence! )

With LOVE - Kanchan

Beauty... of Existence...

What are we thankful for in life.. Beauty?? Fame?? Money?? Dont you think there is something higher than this to be thankful for?? We go to the temples regularly and ask for more or thank him for what we own today.. But we have something that we don't own but still its OURS!



EXISTENCE.. Don't you think we should be happy that we have one more day to live when we wake up in the morning.. Don't you think we should be glad that have one more night to sleep peacefully... Cause we actually went through the whole day safely.. We should be happy for being!! I know all of this may sound familiar.. But have we given it a thought ever! It is the beauty of our EXISTENCE that helps us do our day-to-day chores or even earn money or even for that matter being famous.. Are all these materialistic important to live.. or to make life BEAUTIFUL.. It just makes US look beautiful! We should try and put this existence to use.. And the next question is.. How are we going to do that?? Make a difference in people's lives, try and improve someone else's existence.. By doing this you not only put your existence to use but also feel better.. Try it.. You may find it to be true!!

By saying Beauty of existence i don't mean how beautiful we can look when we're alive.. But how beautiful we can feel when we're Alive..

From all three posts of mine.. I'm just trying to make A difference.. No offence to anyone personally!

Please give this a thought.. To how beautiful our life can be only if we help in beautifying it.. Not by wearing costly clothes.. Or looking beautiful but by simply loving people and helping them make use of their existence! And once again.. Lets love doing this!

With Love - Kanchan